I Miss My Ex-Boyfriend: How to Get Him Back
Going through a breakup with your boyfriend can be a heart-wrenching experience. It is likely that you are out-of-sorts and not really feeling at all like the old “you” at all. Maybe life even feels bleak and less meaningful since he has been gone. Maybe you are even saying to yourself, “I miss my ex-boyfriend and want to get him back.”
Successfully getting him back into your life will be no simple task. After all, for whatever reason, one or both of you had not so long ago decided that things should end between you. It seemed like you could not work things out, so you split up. Of course, now that your relationship is over, it is impossible for both of you to work on it. The only way to work things out is to get back together and make another go of it.
That said, there are definitely things you can do to get your guy back if he has broken up with you. The most important thing is to start with is to make sure that, in your heart of hearts, you really do want him back. Make sure that your real motives and intentions for getting him back are the right ones. You must be sincere if you are to embark on this task of getting him back.
Next, it is very important to set off on the road of getting him back with the full knowledge that this type of effort does not always work out. It is entirely possible that you could fail at your task. But, even you do not succeed you will be able to rest assured knowing that you gave it your best effort.
If you do want to get him back, you need to start by regaining control of your emotions. Coming across as emotionally out-of-control, needy or overly-clingy will turn off almost any man. People are generally attracted to people who seem to be balanced and sure of themselves. In fact, if you try to contact your ex-boyfriend while you still do not have control your emotional state, you may do even more damage than has already been done with the initial breakup.
The most advisable thing to do is to focus on living your own life again. Take your focus off of him and your feelings about your past relationship with him, and regain your own sense of self. Keep up with your old daily routines such as exercising, reading for pleasure, or hanging out with friends (etc.). Take good care of your physical appearance, including your hair, make-up and clothing.
If you are able to stay active and live your life without contacting him for a while, you will have a better chance of getting your ex back. For example, try not contacting him at all for a period of weeks or more. He just may pick up the phone (or e-mail, text, etc.) and contact you out of the blue one day.
When he does, just keep the conversation brief. Tell him about all that you have been doing. There is no reason to play games with him, but it is perfectly okay to be clear that you are living just fine without him (thank you very much!). Do not get really emotional or overly-expressive about your feelings for him. In fact, you should even act a bit indifferent to him. If you do end up meeting in person, make sure to look your best. Whatever you do, though: do not let him touch you or kiss you. Before you leave, if you want, give him a hug but that’s it. This will drive him crazy.
From this point forward, you should be able to get your ex-boyfriend back fairly easily. Just take it slow. Back off and give him space. He will probably contact you and want to see you again. When he does, be a little bit of a tease. Make him work for your love and affection!