Best Ways to Get Over a Breakup: 4 Strategies

If you have just been through a breakup, regardless of who actually ended the relationship, then you are now facing the task of trying to get over it and move on. Needless to say, it is not always easy to get over a special person who is now your ex. And, it is even harder when the relationship had gone on for a long time, such as months or years. Happily, there are some strategies you can undertake to get over the breakup faster.

When you are trying to get over someone, try this: find a room in your home that most reminds you of your ex, and then sit down in a chair, right in the middle of that room. Remove anything from the room that reminds you of them (even pets, if you can!). This would include pictures of the two of you, anything that you bought each other, etc. If you have a lot of things that remind you of your ex, you may have a lot of work to do before the room is sufficiently cleared out!

Remember: you don’t have to remove everything that reminds you of your ex to make this work. Just choose items that bring back particularly strong memories for you. If you have large furniture like a couch in the room, for example, it may not make sense to get rid of it. However, you could remove the throw pillows from that couch. Or, you could even go out and get a new couch cover that completely changes the look (and even the smell - if it still carries the scent of your ex) of the couch!

Another tip that works for some people is to try focusing on all of your ex’s negative qualities. This may be hard to do, because if you are missing your ex badly then thinking of them will probably bring to mind their best qualities first. Another possible challenge with this method: of all the methods of how to get over someone, this is the one really requires you to think of your ex. So, if just the very thought of them brings you to tears you might not be ready for this step.

A great get-over-breakup technique that I like is to write a letter to your ex but never send it. Just write out your thoughts and feelings about your ex - about the breakup, your old life together, your life now: whatever makes you feel like you are expressing your emotions. Then, when you are ready, instead of sending it to your ex, just burn it. Doing this can bring forth a real sense of release.

A final strategy that many people use to get over their ex is to start dating again. 
While many people do not like this idea because it somehow dishonors their ex, I think that it does nothing of the sort. Rather than dishonoring them, you are simply showing the world that you are ready to move onward and upward in your life. You can do this, by the way, even if you are still in love with your ex. There are no promises that you will fall in love again anytime soon. But, dating or even going out with friends is a great way for you to keep yourself occupied and avoid feeling sorry for yourself.

The best ways to get over a breakup vary from person to person. Pick and choose those that best match your situation and your personality.