I Want My Ex Back - 5 Suggestions
The love that you shared was so special, sometimes you thought you could never be any happier than when you were in each other’s arms. Still, there were the times when you the fighting never seemed to stop, and finally your relationship snapped under the strain. Did you ever consider that you two were right for each other and that you just needed to learn the tools required for being in harmony together?
Here are 5 suggestions for how to be together again.
1. Clear your energy of other people: If you are flirting with the idea of rekindling things with your ex, you need to immediately clear your dating calendar with other people. If you are teasing along 2 or 3 other dates here and there, this will affect your overall energy. Your ex, at some level, will sense this about you. For your love with your ex to work, you need to be fully committed to it working, mind, body and soul.
2. Keep your dignity: Sometimes, when we really want someone back, we are willing to sell our souls just a little bit just to get that person back. Maybe we will let it slide when they do not treat us well. Or, we hide parts of ourselves that we think our partner would not like. This is a fool’s game. If you cannot be who you are around you lover, you should not be with that person. And, in fact you will command more respect and love when you are yourself, rather than what you think someone else wants you to be. So, hold your head high and be who you are: you will increase your chances of a successful reunion with your ex.
3. Appreciate each other: Every time you get up in the morning, or before you go to bed at night, close your eyes and tell yourself at least one thing that you love about your partner. Is it the way they treat you? Are they intelligent? Or, attractive? Are they giving? Recognize these traits in your partner for what they are: these are the reasons you chose this person. Why not celebrate them? You see, it is easy to focus too much on the problems you two share: what it is you do not like about your partner. Instead, try changing channels and focusing on the things you love. That appreciation you feel in your heart will come out in subtle ways beyond your control, and your partner will pick up on this.
4. Try a change of scenery: Does this sound like a familiar: you break up, you get back together, 2 or 3 times in a row, all the time tracing the same pattern: you find that each time you do, things are exciting and new for the first few weeks or months and everything is great. But, soon you find things devolving right back into their previous state - the fighting, the unhappy moments - and soon you are taking each other for granted again. If you really want to make your rekindled relationship work, try changing things up a bit. Try meeting some new people as a couple and find some new hangouts. The goal is here is not to mask or run away from your problems. Rather, it is to shake your relationship out of its old, worn-out patterns. If you are going to be happy again, you need to reinvent yourselves, if only a little bit.
5. Create a shared sense of destiny: Life is something we create as we go along. There may be some elements of fate in our lives, but so much of it comes from what we design ourselves. Couples that are the happiest are those that recognize this fact and take their fate into their own hands. In order to be the couple that can wield that kind of power, each of you needs to believe in that power as individuals. Take some time to think about what you want for yourself. Wrap your own mind around the vision for your life, then engage your ex to do the same. Bonus: the act of creation is a very sexy act, and your design session could turn into a very romantic time.
If you want your ex back, you will be most successful by first centering yourself in who you really are and making sure that there are no undue influences in your energy. When you do reunite with your ex, you will be most successful if you shake things up a bit, appreciate each other, and take charge of your future together.